27th August Piatkus Books (Imprint of Little Brown)
An all- encompassing guide to help guys navigate sex, relationships and consent in the twenty-first century
The world has changed, and the revelations of the #MeToo movement have prompted serious questions about how men are raised to understand consent and their own sexuality. Respect is an all-encompassing guide that sheds light on these issues and more, laying out how men should approach and understand sex and relationships.
In direct, approachable language, Inti Chavez Perez draws on his vast experiences as a sex educator to delve into topics such as having sexual relationships and body image, to gender identity and sexual orientation among others, and does so without judgement. Respect is a book for guys to learn from and then go back to, telling you everything you should know and everything you would want to know.
Firstly thanks very much to Jo at Little Brown Book Group (Piatkus Books) for sending me this book, I saw her post on Twitter, ‘if you have a son, read RESPECT and leave it around for him to pick up,’ with 2 boys of my own aged 11 and 15 I instantly responded and she kindly popped a copy in the post.
So I have now read this book and I intend to leave it round the house for my eldest to pick up! The book is a frank and highly accessible read aimed at adolescents using language they can understand and relate to. The book is broken down into 10 sections which in turn are made up of short sections and short paragraphs. Making it a very easy book to dip into. A vast array of topics are covered and as stated in the description, discussed in a non judgemental way. The book, I think would be very reassuring to any young person and I believe it would answer most of their questions, without going into too much depth. Throughout the book is the theme of respect, linked with consent with good examples of how to check things out and how everything is improved by being respectful.
As a parent I am glad I read this book, it is brutally frank but covers quite literally everything and is a really useful tool for learning about sex. It did make me think as there were a few bits that I wasn’t sure were appropriate, however this ties in with the non judgemental aspect and recognising that the sexual landscape is ever changing and I suspect young people are trying more and have a wider source of knowledge than my generation. And so, in making me think, this made me reconsider my own thoughts and biases about what we tell our children about sex and the need for them to be armed with all information. Topics covered include dick size, porn, anal sex, sex with girls, sex with boys, solo sex, dick pics to name a few.
About the Author
Inti Chavez Perez is a writer and sex educator from Gothenburg, Sweden. He left a career as a journalist to focus full time on issues concerning equality, sex and sexuality. He regularly teaches sex education to teenagers in schools and lectures on education to midwives, teachers and government officials. Chavez Perez has been appointed by the Swedish government as an expert on matters regarding the sexual violence of boys, LGBTQ+ issues, honour violence and other issues; in addition he serves as a member of their advisory council for the Swedish Agency for Youth and Civil Society.