8th August 2019 Little Brown
Candace Bushnell gets personal in her new memoir – an investigation into what happens when a woman of a certain age (OK, lets call it ‘middle’) finds herself not-so-young, free and single in the city.
Set between the Upper East Side of Manhattan and a country enclave known as The Village. Is There Still Sex In The City? gathers Bushnell’s signature short, sharp satirical commentaries on the love and dating habits of middle-aged men and women as they continue to navigate the ever-modernising world of relationships. MILFs, cougars, love, sex, divorce – Candace’s brilliantly funny and honest first-person account lays bare the truth behind middle-aged romance. Among other revelations, we read her Modern Day Cougar Compendium, including guidance on such important matters as the Unexpected Cub Pounce (sometimes the cub does the pouncing); what to do when your age-appropriate date asks you to pay for his kitchen renovation; and the Pluses and Minuses of Being Older and Wiser.
In Is there Still Sex In The City? Bushnell looks at love and life from all angles – marriage and children, divorce and bereavement – as well as the very real pressures on women to maintain their youth and have it all. This is a pull-no-punches social commentary and an indispensable companion to one of the most revolutionary dating books of the twentieth century.
First things first, I am a huge Sex and the City fan, I loved the series and enjoyed the movies. Carrie Bradshaw was my absolute favourite and on a recent flight back from New York I enjoyed watching a couple of episodes, so much so that I decided to watch the entire boxset again! I haven’t done this yet, although I did start and really enjoyed an afternoon watching Season 1
So obviously it’s no surprise that this book made it onto my radar right? Although I was a little unsure because the Sex and the City books didn’t do it for me in the way the TV show did. But fear not, this book was fabulous! From the very first page, the first person voice sounded to me just like Carrie – I could hear her speaking in my head as she reflected on the plight of 50 something women, dating again after divorce and trying to find their place in an ever changing world, but a world where women have a sell by date and 50 is very much past it…or is it?
With a strong and diverse set of female friends, Bushnell picks herself up from divorce and moves out of the city, to a small fishing village on the edge of the Hamptons. And the world of dating has changed, with the rise of Tinder and similar, the landscape is in fact unrecognisable and really rather depressing. But Bushnell is strong on women and this book is as much about women as it is about dating. Recognising a time in life where the nest is empty and the marriage is over, Bushnell talks about the friendships of women as they find themselves alone and off course. Profoundly reflecting on the older rich man with a much younger woman, the rise of the Cub provided an entertaining counterstory.
Highly entertaining, amusing mostly, but at times very sad. This was brilliantly written and a superb piece of non fiction, the writing was sharp and witty and as I mentioned previously, familiar in terms of sounding like the fabulous voice of Carrie. Like Sex and the City this book is on target I think in telling it as it is. Open and honest this places an entertaining spin on the challenges women face and in doing so it warmly brings things out into the open, in the same way that Sex and the City created a platform for women to be open and honest about sex and dating first time around, Is There Still Sex and the City continues this conversation into the middle years! Highly, highly recommended.
About the Author
Candace Bushnell is the critically acclaimed, internationally bestselling author of Sex and the City, Lipstick Jungle, The Carrie Diaries, One Fifth Avenue, Trading Up, Four Blondes, Summer and the City, Killing Monica. Sex and the City, published in 1996, was the basis for the HBO hit series and two subsequent blockbuster movies. Lipstick Jungle became a popular television series on NBC as did The Carrie Diaries on the CW.